One thing I have had to learn and remember over the years about relationships is that you are NOT guaranteed a happy, fulfilling, or faithful one – not ever! There is only one relationship that can offer this and it is in Christ and not in or with people. In other human beings you can hope for it, you can work toward it, you can give your all to it; but it is NOT a given that you will even come close to having it.
1.) No other human being, no matter how much they may love you, was put on this earth to make you happy. You were. That is not their job, duty, or responsibility.
2.) No other human being was put on this earth to guide you through life. That directional flow is solely up to you; especially after you have become an adult. They can advise you (if you listen), but they can’t walk the steps for you. You have to walk them alone.
3.) No other human being was put on this earth to make sure you escape or avoid hard times, bad situations, or storms in life. That falls on you.
4.) No other human being was put on this earth to pay or pave your way. That work belongs solely to you and you alone.
Do you see how it all boils down to you and the choices you make?
You can, at the most, ONLY blame your parents for 17 years of your life, unless you choose to live with them until you’re 40 so they can still foot your bills (if they are ignorant enough to put up with it until then). And in many cases not that many years can be placed on them. The rest is solely on you. After adulthood, we make our own choices in life. What have you done with the years after your left the safety of your parents nest? Who screwed those years up? Looks like you did? So take responsibility for it and stop blaming someone else. Life is what you make it. Life is about choices that you and you alone have to place your name on.
That’s life – shut up whining and make something of yourself; or continue to sit back blaming others for the years you are screwing up and stay in the mess of a life you are making for yourself. In other words, grow up and be the grown up you pushed so hard to be when you lived with your parent(s). It’s up to you. My life is up to me and yours is up to you. I can’t make yours and you can’t make mine. We make our own….now live with it!
If your parents got you safely and healthy to adulthood – they did their job and they own you nothing else. The rest of life, which you have been given is strictly up to you. Can you handle it? Well if you can’t, look in the mirror and you will see the person you need to blame for that failure…
All of this to say one main point. If you want to have a completed, fulfilled, happy, and stable life; other human beings cannot achieve that for you. Only through Christ can this be achieved and only by you taking control of your life and making the right choices and taking responsibility for those actions will you even come close to having it. If you fall on your face, admit YOU fell on your face. Pick yourself up; dust off; and move forward. It starts and ends with you and the choices you make.
As the old saying goes, “You made your bed, now lay in it!” So seek God to help you get out of that negative way of thinking and back on the road to being a successful human being. Again, that choice is up to ONLY YOU!
You wanted to be an adult! Well now you are! Welcome to the real world! Put on your big girl/boy underwear and get in line with the rest of us adults. There is no short cut.
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